When we talk about adopting, the conversation usually goes like this…
“There are soooo many children that need families in America. Have you thought about Fostering-to-Adopt?”
Then I have to decide which answer to give…Usually I go with the long answer, but wish I was brave enough to say the short.
Short Answer: There ARE so many children that need families in America. Have YOU thought about Fostering-to-Adopt?
Long Answer: We agree, there are too many children in foster care in America. Our heart is broken for all orphans, no matter where they live. Although fostering-to-adopt would probably be cheaper for us, the emotional stakes are higher. Call it selfish, but we don’t think we could handle the unknowns that go along with fostering. It would absolutely devastate our family to get attached to a child and have it not work out for one reason or another. We want a baby, and know the majority of waiting children are older. It is very important for us to keep the correct birth order of our children. Since Jonah is only 3 years old, we feel a baby would be best.
Don’t get me wrong—We have the utmost respect for those that choose fostering-to-adopt and have friends in the process. We just don’t think it is the right thing for our family at this time.
Does choosing to go internationally instead of fostering in our own country make us bad people? No. We fully believe God has led us to Ethiopia. We also believe that God has families picked out for all orphans. Maybe you might be one of them?